Transform your space and energy
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
- Gautama the Buddha -
Setting healthy boundaries is empowering and hopefully teaches others in your life to follow suit. They too can learn to take responsibility. Just remember, it’s not your job to do it for them. Discovering ‘self-love’ really is the key to this process.
“Personal boundaries are physical, emotional, spiritual, or relational limits that define us as separate from others. Setting boundaries means that instead of taking on other people’s beliefs, standards, and feelings, we become in tune with our own. We learn to develop a more solid sense of self that helps us take control of what is important to us and make decisions that serve our value system.”
- Matot-Massei -
How to Create Healthy Boundaries
Awareness of your thoughts, needs, habits, values, likes, dislikes, and emotional reactions, helps you to fully understand your inner being. This, in turn, helps establish positive relationships with like-minded people.
Becoming aware of stressful and emotionally draining situations allows you to manage yourself. Let go of negativity, what no longer feels right for you.
Become aware of your patterns
Unfortunately, most of us are wedded to our behavior. A pattern will emerge - perhaps this has been the narrative of our lives. Situational behavior becomes habitual. The only way to break this habit is to be fully aware of patterns and reactions - don’t let them breathe.
Attachment to outcomes - learn to let go
We all experience moments when it’s easier to go with the flow. Often it’s a conscious choice. Self-certainty and trust come in waves. By finding an ability to let go, we find a sense of calm - being in the moment. When we become more aware of the greater picture of our lives and develop spiritually, we can put things in better perspective and let go of expectations.
Learn to say no
May all be blessed with peace, love and wisdom.