“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
- Lao Tzu -
It can be tough...
That feeling of feeling inauthentic. Anxious. Judgmental. Not good enough. Not likable enough. Not smart enough. Not pretty enough.
They worry about what other people think about you. That worry can hinder you from pursuing your dreams.
It can stop you from expressing your true nature and stand in the way of the life you so badly want to create.
The truth is, other people’s opinions of us are none of our business. Their opinions have nothing to do with us and everything to do with them, their past, their judgments, their expectations, their likes, and their dislikes.
To help you move past the fear of other people’s opinions, I’ve put together a list of ideas.
1. Understand that it’s never about you
Another person’s judgment about you is never about you — it’s about them. It’s a reflection of their fears, limitations, and perceptions.
2. Know your values
Knowing your top core values is like having a flashlight to get you through the woods.
If you value inner peace and you need to say “no” to someone who is asking for your time, and you just don't feel to meet up, you can do so without feeling like they will judge you for being a selfish person.
If you value authenticity and you share your opinion in a crowd, you can do so with confidence knowing that you are living your values and being yourself.
3. Know that you have full ownership over your feelings
When we base our feelings on other people’s opinions, we are allowing them to control our lives.
When we give ownership of our feelings over to others, we give up control over our emotions. The fact of the matter is, the only person that can hurt your feelings is you.
To change how other people’s actions make you feel, you only need to change a thought. This step sometimes takes a bit of work because our thoughts are usually automatic or even on the unconscious level, so it may take some digging to figure out what thought is causing your emotion.
What it all comes down to is the following:
Approve of yourself
Acceptance of yourself is what it all comes down to.
Once you approve of yourself, you stop worrying about other people’s opinions. You have the one approval that matters most: your own.
Look at your imperfections, flaws, and the choices you wish you had made differently and accept it all.
Know that you are enough.
Stop worrying about what other people think. It will change your life!
Stop living in accordance with other people’s expectations and start living life true to yourself.
Keep taking time to develop inner peace and strength through breathwork and meditation and cultivate a healthy pattern for your day-to-day life through my 7 Day Essentials course.
May all be blessed with peace, love and wisdom.